Monday, November 24, 2008

learning to communicate

Richard sent me an email and told me that anything sent to Christie will be received by her he doesn't have to review it. He also told me the results from the hearing test. The loss of hearing in he left ear is sever and the loss in the right moderate, but that they will be fitting her for hearing aids but don't know when that will be. He also sent me the Halloween pictures of Christie but he had them developed for me so I don't have them on a CD to be able to post them. Just the same it was nice for him to do that for me. The healing process has started in more areas than one.
Please continue to pray,
Becky

3 comments:

Anonymous said...

I have been reading both blogs and I feel like everyone is missing the main person involved here and that is Christie. Good grief people, at least you can walk, talk, eat, hear, go to the bathroom; but Christie is unable to do any of these on her own, yet she seems to have a very active brain and is quite aware of what is going on around her. Put yourself in her place. Can you imagine lying in bed, thinking constantly, and wondering why no one helps or even visits daily. How lonely that child must be. Her condition was no fault of hers, but she seems to be the only one suffering. As a parent I can’t help but wonder why you are not doing everything possible via doctors and therapy to help this child heal as much as is physically possible. Her best medicine is her parents and their constant contact with her either in person or on the phone. Her condition and tests should be shared between the parents so they can decide the best course of action for the child they conceived and raised. Locking even one parent out is only hurting your child. And your child should be your main concern, not you or anyone else in the immediate family. Her well being is your responsibility as her parent – start acting like one and help your child come home – not dwindle away in some home without the love that she is so innocently asking for.

If you do nothing else, please open up and share everything that happens with Christie with her mother who I understand is living out of state and this is the only way she can find out how her daughter is doing; if you are not doing so now – she deserves as much. What hell she must be going through, not knowing all the particulars and not being able to be with her as often as she would like. Again Christie is the main concern here – do your best as parents to help her.

Anonymous said...

Hi Becky and all,
I agree with the other blogger. I don't know who wrote that but it is the truth. If Richard can't be there everyday for Christie, he should allow her to come to SC to be with people who can. To not communicate with Becky is awful for both her and Christie. We love all of you but the most important is that young girl who is lost and alone and don't understand. We pray that God will intervene and His will be done.
Love, Sharon & David

Anonymous said...

I as a parent hope none of you ever have to go through what my child and grandchild is going through. I watch Becky everyday and see her die a little more inside. This is the first time in her life that she has not been able to be with her child when she needs her.
When Christie was a baby she fell and cut her lip. Her Mom took her to the hospital and had to hold her down while they sewed her up. But Christie was a good girl. She gave me the little sticker teddy bears they gave her for being so good. I still have them and when I look at them I think of Christie.
When Lee was run over by a trailer his Mom took him to the Dr. to be sure no bones were broken. When he had pneumonia she stayed at the hospital with him. She didn't leave him for a moment. When Xander was having the major surgeries he's had she was right there with him. He had double kidney surgery and she was there the whole time. She loves her children and this is breaking her heart.
Thank you all for praying and please keep the prayers going. Christie one of these days will find someone who will listen when she says I want Mom and God will bring her home so her Mom can take care of her only the way a Mother can take care of a child when they need her.
I think not being able to talk to the Drs is one of the hardest things she has ever gone through. She can't ask them what the tests have shown or what can be done about the problems. She can't ask whats taking so long to get Christie a phone or when will she be getting her hearing aids or when are you going to try putting her on the bedpan every few hours. Christie can tell them when she needs to use the bathroom but it's easier to change her diaper than to take the time to put her on the commode or bedpan. How humilating that must be for this precious 16 year old teenager.

Thanks again for your prayers. God will do something because Christie belongs to her parents, but first of all she belongs to God.

Sincerely,
Mary

About Christie

I am Becky, Christie's Mom and I want to tell you about Christie. Christie is a beautiful, outgoing, and caring person. She loves outside, turtles, frogs, birds all kinds of animals especially horses. Christie has talked about maybe becoming a vet. Christie was injured in a car wreck on April 19,2008. Christie has a severe globial brain injury where they had to remove the whole left tempral lobe. This blog is to share Christie's story. She is a fighter, and she is making a recovery that no one thought she would.

MOTHERS


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